Dil Main jo baat hain batado.(Let it out )

Masti_wala · Senior Member

RE: Dil Main jo baat hain batado.(Let it out )

p_gandhi · Newbie

Hey guys i have to let something out, why is it for a little misunderstanding a very good friendship breaks?

My best friend and me were really very close and had same likes and dislikes. we are both married so now between our friendship the men ego has entered and has made everything worst. I feel really very sad dont feel to do anything just keep on thinking what will hapen would we be best friends again or not. We haven't talked to each other since three days. Please tell me how i can leave these feelings behind I really do not like it.

rinx · Senior Member

Sorry the previous posting is from Rinx and not p_gandhi.

rostx · Guru's GURU

Were you friends before you both got married?

Was the argument about your husbands?

Or did one of the men say something to cause the argument?

We need a little more insight beforewe can understand what might be the problem, and if there's any chance of your friendship being salvaged....

rinx · Senior Member

aare yaar no we became friends here in canada and that was after marraige.

she was talking to my hubby and wanted us to do something for her, but when she called just before that my mom in India was hospitalised and doctors had said that she had 48 hours if she is ok in that 48 hours then she will be fine we had that in our mind. any ways she is fine now.

my friend was talking to my hubby and she asked him if we could do that and he said yes but we had some problem in doing so before he could finish his sentence she started saying that "because of that you don't want to do it". And so my hubby said that "you know what i don't want to talk to you tell your husband to call me i will talk to him as i am not in a mood to talk to you this way". And then her husband sends us an Email very rude. but thats it our friendship has gone to drain.

I have never wished bad for anybody i use to help her out in any ways i could but they forgot everything and they didn't even called to ask how my mom was doing.

I know it is there fault but now her husband is asking for apology from my hubby and I think it should be other way round what do you think?

rostx · Guru's GURU

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"aare yaar no we became friends here in canada and that was after marraige. she was talking to my hubby and wanted us to do something for her, but when she called just before that my mom in India was hospitalised and doctors had said that she had 48 hours if she is ok in that 48 hours then she will be fine we had that in our mind. any ways she is fine now. my friend was talking to my hubby and she asked him if we could do that and he said yes but we had some problem in doing so before he could finish his sentence she started saying that "because of that you don't want to do it". And so my hubby said that "you know what i don't want to talk to you tell your husband to call me i will talk to him as i am not in a mood to talk to you this way". And then her husband sends us an Email very rude. but thats it our friendship has gone to drain. I have never wished bad for anybody i use to help her out in any ways i could but they forgot everything and they didn't even called to ask how my mom was doing. I know it is there fault but now her husband is asking for apology from my hubby and I think it should be other way round what do you think? "

Hey rinx..I thought it was p-ghandi that asked the question???..maybe I'm getting myself mixed up with who is whom..yikes

Okay..I get the picture of the situation....
I'm assuming she and hubby are indians too?..The reason I ask is because sometimes the way different cultures talk /express themselves there can be misunderstandings from the get go! ..cause something we might think is 'normal' , they misunderstand entirely...
I think from what you said that your 'friend' jumped the gun ..maybe in her mind she already had preconcieved ideas of ya'll, so that the littlest thing set her off...A good friendship is based on not only talking but listening too!
The fact that the husband sent a rude email tells me that they are rather aggressive and act without thinking things through and don't care of the consequences...friends that are selfish, insensitive to hurting /causing stress to you are not friends!
I think you finally got to see the true nature of the 'beast' as they say and regardless if in time they wanna kiss and make up, you should thank your lucky star that you saw them for what they really are and move on to people who are a bit more understanding,and caring...It's sad i know when friendship ends or is lost, but ask yourself do you want this to happen again, because it will..it's their style apparently..